What you choose to focus on

Went to an Action for Happiness talk by Tal Ben Shahar and he left us with a really useful set of messages:

1. Focus on what’s good

2. Ask questions that help us find solutions rather than focus on the negative

3. When you appreciate the good, the good appreciates – in other words, focusing on happiness means we get more happiness in our lives

We do this by using techniques such as a solutions focused approach to problem solving, appreciative inquiry or working with strengths. However, so many of us focus on what’s wrong and what needs fixing. Perhaps we could focus on what is working and how we might get more of that.